Thriving free from alcohol

November 28th marks two years since I’ve been drunk—or overdrank in any way. In that time, I’ve had alcohol occasionally, but only a couple of times have I even felt a “buzz.”

Looking ahead, my aim for 2026 is 100% alcohol-free. Honestly, what’s the point anymore? The fantasy still lives rent free in my head sometimes, but when it comes to actually drinking, I simply don’t want it.

Overcoming this has been the greatest challenge—and accomplishment—of my life. I’m immeasurably better for it.

Maybe this feels a bit too vulnerable to share, but hell with it. It’s a huge deal. 🤨😉

For those who are sober curious, silently questioning, or struggling, here are a few insights that helped me:

1. Tolerance is a trap. Alcohol builds tolerance, which leads to more consumption, which eventually leads to dependence—first mental, then physical.

2. Make a pros and cons list. Put the benefits of alcohol on one side and the downsides on the other. It’s the most unequal list you’ll ever make.

3. Knowledge is power. Seek out resources, tools, and new mindsets to change your relationship with drinking. Anyone can decide to stop—but once dependency sets in, it becomes the hardest fight of your life.

Bonus Tip: Real friends won’t judge you for not drinking, something I’ve definitely worried about. But I can’t buy into the story that alcohol is required for fun or connection. That’s a scam we’ve all been sold.

The truth is, it’s not easy. We’ve been programmed to drink:

Sad? Have a drink.

Happy? Have a drink.

Bad day? Have a drink.

Great day? Have a drink.

Wedding? Funeral? Baby shower? Vacation?

Have a drink. Have a drink. Have a drink.

I share this not to judge anyone—quite the opposite. I share it because it’s personal, and because if my story inspires even one person to address their drinking, if they want to, then it’s worth it.

A note I keep in my phone reads:

🚩 Every F’ing thing is easier without it. WE ALMOST DIED HERE. ABORT.

That’s my reminder to stay away. And by the grace of God 🙏, it’s simply not a worry anymore.