Alcohol, Marriage, Personal Growth and More
Refusing to Settle. Choosing Peace. Living Free.
Today, an attorney filed a divorce petition, symbolizing years of emotional exhaustion. Despite moving out five months ago, memories of conflict linger. Subtle criticisms during interactions reaffirmed the need for separation. While empathy remains, the author recognizes that peace, freedom, and respect are unattainable in a relationship marked by constant invalidation.
Tonight I’m writing from a place I never expected to be again: the house I used to call home. I’m here temporarily while my wife is in Chicago visiting her family for Christmas week. I am helping with the dogs, sleeping in the same bed where I spent so many nights trying to convince myself... Continue Reading →
If you’re starting to think about goals and resolutions for 2026, you might find this helpful. As an avid goal setter and someone who’s perpetually looking to grow and optimize, I’ve learned a lot (and tried a lot) on this subject. If you ask 100 people their opinion about goal setting, you’ll probably get 150... Continue Reading →
Five Rules That Have Kept Me Slim for 53 Years I can’t tell you how many times people ask me, “How do you stay so fit?” It happens at airports, work conferences, and even among friends and family. The funny thing is, I don’t really see myself as “fit.” I’d love to have more muscle... Continue Reading →
November 28th marks two years since I’ve been drunk—or overdrank in any way. In that time, I’ve had alcohol occasionally, but only a couple of times have I even felt a “buzz.” Looking ahead, my aim for 2026 is 100% alcohol-free. Honestly, what’s the point anymore? The fantasy still lives rent free in my head... Continue Reading →
The last couple of years have been rough. My marriage fell apart, leading to a separation. I got hit with a medical diagnosis that shook me pretty good. I’ve fought with alcohol, worked on my health, and am trying to figure out who I am and what I want. It’s been a lot, and the... Continue Reading →
A week in Hawaii has forced me to slow down, step back, and face a decision I’ve been avoiding — whether to lean all the way in or finally let go. This trip isn’t about escape; it’s about ending the mental gymnastics and finding peace, one way or the other.
Good health isn’t just about looking fit, and it’s not only about lowering your risk of disease. The truth is, time will pass — 5, 10, 20 years — and eventually, the bill comes due for the habits and choices we make today. Many people treat health like a trade: “I’ll enjoy my food and... Continue Reading →
One could read my story and think: this guy is weak, maybe dramatizing what everyone else calls life. Hard things happen to everyone, after all. And yes, I remind myself often — at least I don’t have cancer, I’m not homeless. My feet are firmly on planet earth and so I get those who might... Continue Reading →
Of all the things I’ve been through in life—and at 53, there are plenty—nothing was harder than my struggle with alcohol. As I sit here writing, I still can’t find words that do the pain justice. Hell. Despair. Misery. Imprisoned.That’s about as close as I can get to describing what it felt like in the... Continue Reading →
Alcohol, Marriage, Personal Growth and More 