Alcohol, Marriage, Personal Growth and More
Refusing to Settle. Choosing Peace. Living Free.
The first graph shows my VO₂ max climbing from “below average” to “above average,” and the second shows my resting heart rate dropping from around 70–72 down to about 59–63 — all in the last year. These two metrics matter because they’re basically snapshots of how well your body is handling life: VO₂ max reflects... Continue Reading →
Over the last few years, I’ve been moving through more major life stressors than I ever really pulled together into one view. From 2021 through late 2023, I was in a daily alcohol cycle—finishing a bottle of vodka every two days, my main goal every day was to pull my shit together enough to do... Continue Reading →
There are moments in healing when something finally clicks — not because the idea is new, but because you’re finally ready to stop minimizing what actually happened. These four insights from a recent therapy session did exactly that for me. If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you weren’t just unheard but worn down... Continue Reading →
The last couple of years have been rough. My marriage fell apart, leading to a separation. I got hit with a medical diagnosis that shook me pretty good. I’ve fought with alcohol, worked on my health, and am trying to figure out who I am and what I want. It’s been a lot, and the... Continue Reading →
One could read my story and think: this guy is weak, maybe dramatizing what everyone else calls life. Hard things happen to everyone, after all. And yes, I remind myself often — at least I don’t have cancer, I’m not homeless. My feet are firmly on planet earth and so I get those who might... Continue Reading →
Over the past couple of years, I’ve been through some of the hardest times of my life—facing marriage struggles, breaking free from alcohol, navigating a serious health scare, and figuring out who I am when old patterns no longer worked for me. Somewhere along the way, I began to notice that the habits and mindsets... Continue Reading →
The journey to this point has been brutal.It’s worn me down in ways I never thought possible. Heck, in ways I never knew could be possible. And while I’m still standing, I’m not the same man I was. Not even close. This didn’t happen overnight.It happened slowly, over years—until one day I realized the version... Continue Reading →
For years, I’ve been caught in an emotional whirlwind, wrestling with a deeply personal decision:Do I keep fighting for a marriage that’s carved painful and permanent scars? Or do I finally summon the courage to step away and reclaim my life? Writing this isn’t just therapeutic—it’s my reminder, my accountability, and maybe a lifeline to... Continue Reading →
We could all point to countless things that have been difficult, painful, or even traumatic in our lives. And frankly—sadly—that’s just life. Our suffering isn’t unique, but it is ours. And it’s real. If you haven’t hit a storm yet, just wait—your turn will come. Each of us carries our own story. What I had... Continue Reading →
Why I’m Not Like Most People - I don’t chase fake happiness or pretend life’s all good vibes and vision boards (which I have). I question everything, maybe even to a fault (even questioning my neurosurgeon!). Purpose, pain, the point of it all. I’ve been through hell in ways most people keep quiet about. I... Continue Reading →
Alcohol, Marriage, Personal Growth and More 