Alcohol, Marriage, Personal Growth and More
Refusing to Settle. Choosing Peace. Living Free.
Over the last few years, I’ve been moving through more major life stressors than I ever really pulled together into one view. From 2021 through late 2023, I was in a daily alcohol cycle—finishing a bottle of vodka every two days, my main goal every day was to pull my shit together enough to do... Continue Reading →
I’ve been thinking a lot about alcohol lately — not from guilt, not from shame, and not because I’m wrestling with it. The truth is, I’m long past the phase where alcohol had any real pull on me. My relationship with it changed years ago, slowly and quietly, as my life got cleaner, calmer, and... Continue Reading →
There are moments in healing when something finally clicks — not because the idea is new, but because you’re finally ready to stop minimizing what actually happened. These four insights from a recent therapy session did exactly that for me. If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you weren’t just unheard but worn down... Continue Reading →
Has she never said, “I see how this hurts you, and I want to do better”? No. And this is why I can’t go back. This is why I knew, deep down, there was no remorse—or enough sympathy—to say it out loud to me and show vulnerability. In the face of overwhelming evidence, the inability... Continue Reading →
Today, an attorney filed a divorce petition, symbolizing years of emotional exhaustion. Despite moving out five months ago, memories of conflict linger. Subtle criticisms during interactions reaffirmed the need for separation. While empathy remains, the author recognizes that peace, freedom, and respect are unattainable in a relationship marked by constant invalidation.
Tonight I’m writing from a place I never expected to be again: the house I used to call home. I’m here temporarily while my wife is in Chicago visiting her family for Christmas week. I am helping with the dogs, sleeping in the same bed where I spent so many nights trying to convince myself... Continue Reading →
The last couple of years have been rough. My marriage fell apart, leading to a separation. I got hit with a medical diagnosis that shook me pretty good. I’ve fought with alcohol, worked on my health, and am trying to figure out who I am and what I want. It’s been a lot, and the... Continue Reading →
Good health isn’t just about looking fit, and it’s not only about lowering your risk of disease. The truth is, time will pass — 5, 10, 20 years — and eventually, the bill comes due for the habits and choices we make today. Many people treat health like a trade: “I’ll enjoy my food and... Continue Reading →
Of all the things I’ve been through in life—and at 53, there are plenty—nothing was harder than my struggle with alcohol. As I sit here writing, I still can’t find words that do the pain justice. Hell. Despair. Misery. Imprisoned.That’s about as close as I can get to describing what it felt like in the... Continue Reading →
Over the past couple of years, I’ve been through some of the hardest times of my life—facing marriage struggles, breaking free from alcohol, navigating a serious health scare, and figuring out who I am when old patterns no longer worked for me. Somewhere along the way, I began to notice that the habits and mindsets... Continue Reading →
Alcohol, Marriage, Personal Growth and More 